Why Change Is So Hard

The woman sitting before me is intelligent, competent, well-educated, and financially independent. She appears to have a solid career. Her children are from a previous relationship. She doesn’t rely on her partner for money. Although there is no overt physical abuse,...

Over a Century of Psychotherapy: Are We Improving?

In 1982, American psychologist James Hillman issued a pointed challenge to his own profession. In We’ve Had a Hundred Years of Psychotherapy and the World’s Getting Worse (co-authored with Michael Ventura), he argued that despite a century of psychological insight,...

A Year of Yes

I took some time off toward the end of 2025. It wasn’t the kind of holiday respite where I spent time catching up on reading or planning out my year ahead. For once, I actually made a conscious effort to stop striving and stop envisioning my life as a “project” in...
This Is For You

This Is For You

Some people are born storytellers. But I think of myself as a story-catcher. Someone with a calling to listen to the stories others tell. I listen. I wait, with ears and heart open, for that brief, unguarded moment when someone risks opening the door of their heart...